What better month to talk about self-love than the month of love?
More recently than before, the word “self-love” is being commonly used in conversations. We use it to make a point, emphasize a decision to do or not do something. However, do we really know what self-love is or how to possess it? Practicing this consciously is a huge progress in your personal development and a part of healthy living.
In plain terms, self-love is regard for oneself, well-being and happiness. Basically, it entails treating yourself kindly, with love and respect for yourself. While it is easy to provide a definition for self-love, possessing it is not as easy. Even writing about it was not so easy either. However, having self-love is an important part of living a productive life. The good thing about it is that it does not have to be expensive to get.
More on self, I explain four basic actions that makes it attainable.
- Set boundaries and protect yourself
Boundaries are limits, guidelines, that you create to state how you want to be treated by others. It is the edge you have around yourself to show what you can take and what you can’t. basically we create boundaries to protect ourselves from unwanted action, feelings that eats into our perception of who we are. In your journey to self-love, it is important that you know what is good for you and what is not. Set boundaries around yourself that will keep you from toxic people.
- Live intentionally
Because purpose is a big word, and a journey in my opinion, I choose to go with goals in this case. Everybody has goals and vision that they wish to achieve. In achieving these goals, your actions have to be intentional towards the goals. If it is something that goes against your goal and value for yourself, you don’t have to be involved in it. Live intentionally according to the goals that you have set for yourself and according to God’s plan for you.
- Be mindful of your conscience
Everybody has that voice that sometimes says positive or negative things to us. The little voice that in our head that either supports your choices or tries to talk you out of it. To have self-love, you have to be mindful of what that voice says to you. And be ready to counter the negative words. Cause lets be real, everybody has moments when we only hear negative opinion. And that it when you need all the self-love you have to talk yourself out of the negative thoughts.
- Forgive yourself
This is a very important point. Learn from your mistakes and forgive yourself. This might be hard to do, but also easy at the same time. When you make a mistake in your growing process, don’t be too hard on yourself, learn from your mistake. Accept that you made a mistake and effect those lessons. Stop punishing yourself for these mistakes.
Asides from these main points that I have explained, I think there are other ways to show yourself love and some of them include learning something new, plan and manage your time consistently, save and invest your money and most of all, be grateful.